Sorry for those who have been kept waiting for a new post.
Friends or foe?? oppss.. family i mean... Which are the closest to us and actually influence our decision making?. let me brief you guys on both.
Family (parents and siblings) = Those who we hang on to the most, more matured (parents) but minus the fun and understanding(sometime).
Friends = Usually in the same age group, Great to be with, Understanding and as idiotic as you are!
So, when you decide to do something, ask yourself, who influence you to say "its okay to do this", "its safe" "its better" when you are deciding. here are some example:
Studying (parents : its a must) (friends :boringg!)
Wasting time (parents : do something!) (friends: What time wasting? Fun lor)
you decide on what to do next. Decision after all is made after we have consider all the outcome of the action we are bound to take.
But we all have to agree. parents' most of the time make us feel constricted while friends allow us to do what we wanna do thus the perception of they understanding us more. Its normal in teenage life. But are they wise enough and matured enough to know all the consequences of an action as our parent or any elder person would know? the answer is no.
From my observation, it is wise to say that . A generation of youth is in jeopardy of its future due to this problem. The path guide. And this i concentrate especially on the malays. In this modern day, Most parents are kept busy to look for money to make their family life more comfortable, but sometime they get too busy until that they have forgotten what they are working for actually, their children comforts.
These days parents is seen more as :
- The source of income
- Family caretaker
- Big decision make
They are the most important frined we could ever have, they are wiser, and more mature and they can help us with our problems, but unlucky for us they are some attitude that exist (cultural) that happen to be a great wall for some topics in our life such as sex, the opposite sex attraction ,
and here is the main problem in the malay culture, The children to parents respect level.
Malay parents usually set their standard so high that it have become uncomfortable to even talk to casually to their parents, and the taboo topics that we as a human cant avoid.
Not everybody have a parent that they totally depend on, this is where the role of the goverment comes into picture. SCHOOL! , teachers are the next best thing as friends after parents. But reality is here in malaysia is that most teacher are not even comited to the future of their students. For me, without a proper friend to guide the youth of today, the future look very dark indeed and at it best, no improvement.
i would want to suggest strongly that the goverment review the school time table to suit the parent working schedule. As these kids will have less time with their parents in the curent school schedule. Allowing them to spend more times with their friends rather than their parents.
And the most important thing of all, future parents have to be given a crash course on child development. Babies are like a new hard disk, what they are in the future are influenced by their enviroment. No race or culture is born to be weak! as human are bron equal, the diffrences is only at the attitude and belief of a culture.