The Forbidden Roots

Holla people! again i am up in early morning to write my latest "eureka" moment of the day, i got this while reading a book by John c.Maxwell and through my observation of the students in my class. I will touch upon the effect's of Leaders in the school community(students) and how we have failed to move and make use of them.

The assumed leaders.

- This is how a school assume a leader among student

-Responsible, hard working, top scorer's,

these are role models as leaders and school's push hard to develop this kind of leaders due to the good image surrounding them.

The REAL leaders.

-there are two types, the one's the school put a highlight on and the one's that the school ignore and try their best to remove them.

the truth about leadership is that it exist not on the "role model" quality a person have, but very much on the influence a person exert on the people around him or her. regardless good or bad.

let me say it again, a person is a leader when he or her have followers and influences, regardless of what quality that he possess.

Why do i talk about leaders among student?

Because they are the roots to the success and failures of a school. there are two direction of a leaders, they can bring about destruction (Hitler as an e.g) and they can also bring about great success ( e.g are too many)

Where is the failure?

Do you remember there are some people in your school that are popular and have a group of people that always surrounds them, to make it simple, imagine this, there is somebody in your school who is well known for the mischievous stuff he have done, and he seems to have a group people following his footsteps, these people are natural born leader but without a proper sense of direction and schools always seems try to remove them and will never acknowledge them as leader. These people bring about influence to other students that surrounds them, in the small community of a school , they are not too hard to be spot, they are usually very famous. so, where is the failure?

1.Schools try to remove them from the school.

2.Never to acknowledge their influence among other students.

3.Not willing to build and encourage these leaders and give them a proper direction as without a doubt, hard to be done, yet never impossible and the reward of it could be very rewarding.

Imagine this.

These small time mischievous leaders's, have somehow change to a proper and constructive direction, and this will allow the school to be able to make use his influence to change the attitudes of his followers through his leadership. but to be able to change a leader, the school must acknowledge, nurture and change their attitude towards these mischievous leaders. Instead of concentrating on each individuals in a school, you get a much faster and rewarding result if you can control the LEADERS in the school community, use their connection to reach even more.

Why such plan is never implemented properly.

Pardon me for any discomforts that i might produce in the next few lines.

The truth is, good leadership is barely visible in our education system, proof?

most teachers are not having the proper attitude, motivation and drive.

the ministry always have an issue on the work quality of the teachers,

and the boom of private tutor industry at a level where a student can only be expected to get good grades when they attend tuition classes. This attitude have taken a lot of time away from children's of today, they have build a community that have a strong belief that only academic success is important for further success in life and they have fail to develop on other important values in life such as family, leisure, and etc... which is important for a healthy lifestyle and good habits that allow them to produce progress.

The White Kopiah.

In the Mercy Of Hope

Its been a while since my last post, but to the excitement of the amount of things that have happened to me all this while, well, stop this crapping and let us go to the topic of today,

Extreme Misery produce Extreme Hope -

this is a beautiful quote that i picked up while surfing the internet recently, and it struck me on the truth it brought a long with it in many aspect of life, at least my life as a start,

There have been time's where i had face tough situations that left me powerless and effortless due to the situation and environment that i had no control of at all, we all had once before, especially when freedom was taken away from a certain kind of authority , for e.g , parents, schools, camps...

the situation would worsen if we are not really enjoying the ride and is suffering under any kind pain, it felt like drowning, in a bottomless sea and there is no way out, at least not a visible one, due to the unstable nature of our emotions, we cant avoid it, and our judgement is like fried maggi.

After reading a few books, when we are up in such situation, we still retain a freedom, the freedom that one could never be removed of, a freedom that we usually take granted for all the giggles and anger, its our greatest ally and our greatest enemy-

The Freedom To Choose Our Reaction Towards a Situation!

Boom! damn, that hurts! All that over emotional, that sad feeling, the tears!

We can actually control it???

That's right my friend, in what ever situation that life throws at you, this is the only kind of freedom that nothing can ever take it away from you, well, unless you are dead, nothing much can be done anyway.

The pain, misery and all the things that make feel as though the world is freaking jealous of you and its trying to get rid of your happiness can be utterly avoided by a simple method, what is it?

Its On How You See The Problem!

IF you feel the problem is unsolvable , well it wont,

IF you feel the problem is solvable it will!

The first step is thinking the right way,

Second step is Believing ,

The last and most important part, TO COMMIT !

To COMMIT does mean no giving up and trying as hard as possible!

Follow these steps and you might find yourself accepting pain in a different way, a more self reflecting way and most of all, as a windows of progress!

F*ck you!

offensive isn't it? this will definitely start an argument.
that is the topic for today, arguments.

Democracy! is a product of arguments, how can this be??
Democracy is the basic system for most of the countries in the world, and the effectiveness level is without a doubt.
arguments is considered a taboo in the the malaysian society, it is considered disrespectful and rude to argue with an elder or somebody that we hold a high sense of respect towards them like bosses and teachers. those who dare enough to argue the authority(teachers, bosses,leaders) will likely to be seen as an elitist(a person of high social standings) or the kind of people who thinks they are better than those around them(malaysian view).

Arguments are the best of methods to solve or improvise anything! Two brains are always better than one! argument don't exist if it only involve a single person. Unless a person have a doubt within them.
In doubt, we , humans , will start to use all the knowledge that we have inside our brain and we decide which one will benefit us or more logical than the other to produce an answer, this method is called argument! we constantly argue with our self to produce the best answer for anything!
the differences between self argument with people involved in arguments is that it hold different opinions and view on the subject.

Arguments tend to lead to extreme result, extremely good solution or they end up in a bad fight which can worsen into a physical one.

The outcome can be controlled, how? kill your ego's and emotion! be open minded and remain focus on the objective of the argument.

when you can control that, it will end up as a healthy argument providing you with solution's to your problem. this is the main problem with malaysians! they tend to avoid arguements! because they can't control it! progress is achieve much faster if arguements were properly carried out. I can't blame directly to the malaysian community, i blame the "ketuanan system(daulat)" between the people with the sultan. Those who disobey the sultan is bound to get the "tulah" . there are still people who believe in such thing, we are all human. non is given more unless god permit it.

My suggestions is that, the malaysian people especially the youngs should be trained to control their emotion, to act more professional, to make them ready for any kind of arguments. And the taboos have to stop, the goverment should be more open minded on certain things in education like sex education. Sometimes what the people want is not best for them. Its up to the politician to decide what is best for them sometimes, if it doesnt benefit the people, maybe, the politicians are not good enough!

The path is?

We already past the midpoint of 2009. New economic plan, but still the old lame education system. At least they are getting it reviewed by UNESCO later. That is something to cherish a bit.
Sorry for those who have been kept waiting for a new post.

Friends or foe?? oppss.. family i mean... Which are the closest to us and actually influence our decision making?. let me brief you guys on both.

Family (parents and siblings) = Those who we hang on to the most, more matured (parents) but minus the fun and understanding(sometime).

Friends = Usually in the same age group, Great to be with, Understanding and as idiotic as you are!

So, when you decide to do something, ask yourself, who influence you to say "its okay to do this", "its safe" "its better" when you are deciding. here are some example:

Studying (parents : its a must) (friends :boringg!)
Wasting time (parents : do something!) (friends: What time wasting? Fun lor)

you decide on what to do next. Decision after all is made after we have consider all the outcome of the action we are bound to take.

But we all have to agree. parents' most of the time make us feel constricted while friends allow us to do what we wanna do thus the perception of they understanding us more. Its normal in teenage life. But are they wise enough and matured enough to know all the consequences of an action as our parent or any elder person would know? the answer is no.

From my observation, it is wise to say that . A generation of youth is in jeopardy of its future due to this problem. The path guide. And this i concentrate especially on the malays. In this modern day, Most parents are kept busy to look for money to make their family life more comfortable, but sometime they get too busy until that they have forgotten what they are working for actually, their children comforts.
These days parents is seen more as :

• Authority
• The source of income
  
• Family caretaker
• Big decision make

who can deny it, these are their resposibilities. Both childrens and parents have lost the most important responsibilites of all. To be Friends to each other.
They are the most important frined we could ever have, they are wiser, and more mature and they can help us with our problems, but unlucky for us they are some attitude that exist (cultural) that happen to be a great wall for some topics in our life such as sex, the opposite sex attraction ,
and here is the main problem in the malay culture, The children to parents respect level.
Malay parents usually set their standard so high that it have become uncomfortable to even talk to casually to their parents, and the taboo topics that we as a human cant avoid.

Not everybody have a parent that they totally depend on, this is where the role of the goverment comes into picture. SCHOOL! , teachers are the next best thing as friends after parents. But reality is here in malaysia is that most teacher are not even comited to the future of their students. For me, without a proper friend to guide the youth of today, the future look very dark indeed and at it best, no improvement.

i would want to suggest strongly that the goverment review the school time table to suit the parent working schedule. As these kids will have less time with their parents in the curent school schedule. Allowing them to spend more times with their friends rather than their parents.

And the most important thing of all, future parents have to be given a crash course on child development. Babies are like a new hard disk, what they are in the future are influenced by their enviroment. No race or culture is born to be weak! as human are bron equal, the diffrences is only at the attitude and belief of a culture.

The word "dowh"

Ko buat ape "dowh"?
dah makan "dowh"?
and the worse....
Ko pandailar "dowh"....

The conversation above is normal among malay teenager's these day's
The question is...
is it proper? does it bring any effect? is it just another day to day word??
Answer=Q1.No! Q2.YEs! Q3. It seems to be.

Explanation .
Question 1 - It's not proper in anytime or any moment. The word "dowh" is derived form the
word "bodoh". And i assume everybody who live in malaysia will know the meaning
of this word. Is it proper to do anything bad?? further explanation below.

Question 2 - The usage of the word "dowh" is to downgrade a person or to insult a person. Since
it has been used daily, they are no longer considered as an insult. Instead, it have
have been a proper way for some teenager to address their peer's. This daily used
of the word have successfully shadow the effect of using those word to the
teenager's. Here are some of the effect:

• It will make your friend less confident of their self
  
• There is nobody smart(a whole generation of stupid)
  
• The sense of respect to each other is lost.
• And for muslim's, you guys do know that every word is a prayer.

Indiviually, we will not feel the effect of it, but as we grow wiser and older. the effect will come to the community and we will notice it. Such simple word can bring great effect to the whole bunch, and my greatest fear is on the future of the malay itself. The teenage years are the most critical time for human development. If a whole generation of under confidence and stupid teenager is produce, what do we expect of us in the future? think.

Question 3 - answered in Q2.

IMPORTANT!! FOR THE LADIES!

For all the ladies out there. Please. I demand from you guys to never use and swear not to use the word "dowh" ever again. I respect women very highly in my life. They are my mother, sister, wife and daughter, they will always remain as the missing part of me. So, i beg to you. not to use this word. Please. Grace and Dignity is what set you apart from guys.Protect it with your life.

Silent..

Silence, simple as it is, but a powerful tool man have failed to appreciate at times,
For some of us, it can only be obtained when we sleep, its a useful tool to help us sleep , but even more useful when we are conscious of it. Why would we want silent?? It's boring and unexciting, its even impossible when our friends are around.

let me show you on how to be silent:

• Shut your mouth
• Concentrate more on observing
• When there is nothing worth hearing, just listen to a boring song that u barely pay attention to(headset).
• And the most important part...Think'
  

What's the catch after doing this? , its the thinking part, when you have silent, you allow your mind to play in its own world. You actually buy time for your own mind, when you talk you use your mind but in a way you giving out information, silent allow us to build on information. Collect information too. One hobby of mine is putting on my headset in a crowded place, and just observe the way people work, communicate, and their culture. It's a beautiful thing. When we think, mostly we will think about the problems that we have and how to answer it. We all have that habit if thing get to freaking mess up, (our mind are like entangled wire's), we prefer it to be left alone until it disappear or be solved by its own, this is definitely a bad choice. i would recommend you guys to take yourself out of your daily habit's and just go somewhere in which where you can play with your mind. A place where silent is abundant.

What we say might make us look matured, but it's silence that grow us up. The more we are with silence , the more we have in this head.